ok... now a combo!!

yeah.. hmmm
its not the normal mtr combo-pulav+jamun+curd bath-just 20rs-awesome taste & served hot most times!!!
its not the McD combo where u save 20 rs for a burger, coke and fries altogether!
then what is it!!
correct this is gonna be the combo of dunno-what-all. just go ahead reading! i assure you, it wont be boring sure!
weary wait
this is how it is after 'v' flew to the US. it so happens that i get to spend lot of time at home, most thinking about him. still trying to involve myself in other things around, meeting friends, attending my veena class, speaking to roomies, reading paper, ya taking bath, taking revenge on the owner and all other daily stuff too! but always those memories with him accompanies me. i feel little insecure at times. i don't know why, am not able to live my old life (before meeting him) yet again!
i wait.. wait and wait.. for an irresistibly longer period to speak to him. Thanks to technology, Google talk helps me a lot! i can speak to him through GT and its as good as speaking over the phone. everyday i speak to him.
but most times it ends up in a fight like this. we speak for sometime and somebody comes online by then. he gets busy with them and i try to pacify myself that this is the only time and only way of him getting in touch with the other sides of his life! later when he gets back to me, we absolutely lose interest in speaking and ya we don't have anything as such to speak also.
a weary wait!! weird too.
my whole point about

successful relationship always stayed at spending time with each other physically (take it in the right sense); other ways it turns out to be a flop show

most. i hope that day would come back soon and v both spend time together exploring my hep city and doing all crazy things:)
a crazy wait again!
plans for new year
this new year we(9 great minds; my office junta) are planning to go to coorg. all the arrangements are done! hope its gonna be a great vacation+a prosperous year's start.. will write more about the trip once i'm back.
the last trip which we went to munnar, ooty, kodai for 4 days had taught us innumerous lessons, we hoped for a better bonding between us after the trip, but it turned out in some other way! the gang was of course different. only 2 of us from that gang are there now this time for this trip. ya, we ignored others!
bout my previous trip:
we were 3 girls and 3 guys. out of that 2 couples (:) sort of going around) there was this me and another guy, of which i felt so left out amongst the couples gang there. the best of buddies whom i thought will give me good company though gave ok types company, were busy with their partners more.
out of those 2 couples, 1 was worse. they were all the time in their own world, pampering each other and going around. when we started planning for the trip itself, these 2 were not willing to come, but we forced them only because we didn't want to leave them and go. everybody knows that this guy is usually behind this girl for every other $hit thing on earth. but when this continued while on a trip people went mad. it was so awkward!
girl in the other couple tried not to make me feel alone and she was with me all the time. she thought that she should give company to everybody and the trip should turn out to be a fun-filled one. she tried something and something else happened. its like the rest 4 of us were together, but the guy of this 2nd couple wanted to spend time with his girl alone and so was pissed off! overall wasn't a satisfactory one.
when all this is going on this way, i started crying for we left another buddy of mine as his parents didn't allow. but i started missing him and i wanted him to be with us very badly. one another reason would be that he would be the only one who can wash away my loneliness that time.
the first place we hit was ooty. i told people there that either he should come to ooty or i'm going back home. get me a train. everyone were shocked. this guy (of 2nd couple) really helped me. somehow he brought him(pal) there and my pal joined us on the 3rd day in munnar. after that all smiles only!
but till date nobody will ever forget the way the guy of 1st couple behaved and he is still like that. Good or bad God knows!
totally an adventurous crazy one. its ok, great lessons learnt. that's important! one biggest lesson is that we should never plan for a longest trip of 4 days anymore.
i hope this trip wont be that way! there's one fellow this time whom most people hate for his behavior but cant leave him and go. its some kind of situation like that. hope i wont face a bad time with him!
so.. now from all these what!
what, kya, yenna..
nothing, kucch nahi, onnum ille... shut up, halt der, close it and
Enjoy your new year!!
with your favorite
party all night.. dance, sing, get excited. enjoy as if its your 'big' day!
Have a great year ahead:)
Wish you all a very happy and prosperous 2007!!

Merry Christmas!!

actually... Santa's truck ran out of fuel and so took a lil late reaching you all with his wonderful gifts. Sorry on his behalf!
now here's my Santa wishing you a merry merry Christmas and a great blessed year ahead!

what to do.. though it was a long weekend, after i squeezed in between a pile of books, stacked up clothes, my barron's, one cute nice small pic & a great album (of me & him:)) all on a decent black color bed spread neatly covering a 1 feet high bed, though it was a supple yoga-practiced, jogged, walked body, was totally busy keeping my eyes closed and dreaming (ya ya duet also) for an incredibly longer period of 18 hours, was more than lazy to leave my sweet bed and stretch myself to do anything else.
thanks to sun tv! for showing kannathil muthamittal and thillana mohanambal (ya, i watched it:D) without which my holidays would've been much boring and sad! still managed to get up & get ready; went out only after 6 in the evening on christmas, didn't want to scare anyone on the road with my oil dipped head!
mid noon thought this Christmas i will miss going to church, but Thanks Jesus! just went out with the plans of meeting friends, with one corner-house (that's an ice cream parlor, they give real good icecreams) maniac in my gang thought will land up in the same old corner house (may be some good soothing, new faces around this time). but somehow the talk deviated and the place of visit became the nearby church! prayed nicely. then went to an ice cream parlor, had strawberry passion after that planned for dinner in chungs. enjoyed christmas with good non-veg food.
2 things sucked that day:
1)hutch messages were charged; 1 rupee per message that too. called up customer care to find out that they've brought a new rule 'on all the government holidays local messages will be charged' it seems. this is a good idea when it comes to prevent message jam! but when it comes to time pass, its really tedious.
2)house owner f***er was trying to pull out my byke that too without the keys, ass hole it was not late also. damn! felt like catching him by collar and giving to a butcher.. no no not to chop and sell, but to feed the goats/cows before killing them. such sick people, really wonder why God creates! sad

Part II : how has the id been hacked!

This part will speak about the way I explored gmail and got to know the various ways of hacking it!
so.. this is how i started. go through each and every section of gmail. check out every field, say secondary email and stuff like that.
if you go see, in the settings page you have some option called forwarding and pops.. there you've got this option of forwarding, when you enable it and add a mail id, a copy of every mail which you get in this particular id will be forwarded to the id which you specify in that field!
so, when I was finding out such things, I was stunned to see this forward option enabled with this mail id from which I had got 'adult' related mails during certain period, say that was the time when I got into this internet world.
That was the time when I was not aware of these junk ids and crap sites which try to earn through getting people into the adult world! So, one day i got a mail of this kind:
Dear user,
you're one of the lucky winner who has been selected by our core team. You can anytime come back to us regarding any advice or help which you would require in your day-to-day life! We're here to help you.
your user id is 'blah-blah'
Thanks
Core team,
OKsharethis
Me who was as innocent as moondram pirai sri devi went ahead and first wrote a thank you mail. Then never wrote to that id. After few days I again got a reminder mail which was almost like I have to ask something. I again, a stupid wrote back, what is 'engineering' :D
crap..
got a reply which was a big damn story, thought they've really written back about Engineering and went ahead reading! Damn it..!!! it was an adult story; believe me.. i read only the 1st four lines which clearly defined that the story is about the adult relationship between a son and a mother!!
fuckers! i'm getting real bad words which are the worst in the entire world of vocabulary...
stopped reading there. then too i was not aware that it was an individual who was trying to ruin my life! wrote back to that id, please unsubscribe me..
damn reply was full of porn pics! somehow got rid of that $hit later then..

now coming back to the story of finding the enabled forward option, i immediately disabled it. and later also i was not very confident with this case and have the passwords changed continuously. all strongest passwords :D

ps:keep reading part 3 continues!

jobless jack ass

some jack ass who didn't have any better work on earth sat and hacked my mail ids! Bastard, he'll rot on hell for that.

Discovery of the alma-matter!
few months ago sometime there was this ex-colleague of mine (let me refer to him as dhe) who pinged me on messenger. the conversation went like this:
dhe: 'yenna, 2 days back nalla thanni adicchutu mapp(bb)ula olariniya (what, 2 days back you've boozed nicely and blabbered over the chat to me).
me: (thinking inside .. this guy is always like this and so kidding as usual) machaa.. yenna olarra, nee mappula irkya (what are you blabbering, you're out of sense now?)
dhe: heyy, no. i'm serious. tell me do you booze!
me: man how can you even ask me this question! of course, i dont
dhe: hey try to remember properly. where were you day before yesterday night
me: at home only.
dhe: again try to remember properly. were you at some of your friend's house and did you guys went for a booze?
me: are you crazy! never. infact i was working from client's place that time and i was at work till around 10pm and then straight took a cab and went home
dhe: i'm not able to believe this. ok tell me, did you send any me mail recently.
me: from which id?
dhe: gmail/yahoo
me: anything recently.. mm... i dont think so.. anyways lemme check
(checking gmail/yahoo.. after 2 minutes) no.. nothing recently.
dhe: hey check properly!
me: (taking a print screen of the gmail/yahoo sent items page; sent it across to him) hey check your mail, i've sent you my gmail/yahoo sent items view, i havent sent anything recently. you can check out!
dhe: (after 5 mins) hey why you doing all this? did i ever ask you to prove anything to me?
me: but you refuse to believe that i havent done anything like that. ok tell me what was that mail which you're talking about?
dhe: that.. thats a mail from your yahoo id full of porn pics!
me: (fuccckkk shittt) how can this ever happen. i wonder seriously!
dhe: i do the same! (logged out!)

i was very much shocked.. confused what only was going on! i couldn't figure out. i really couldn't. thinking over it for around 3 days, no clue absolutely.. who would've sent what would've happened... almost like kaka kaka surya not knowing the gangster pandya till the later 2nd half!
i had few problem from some jack asses when i was in college and even after coming to work.. but i did not mind much. i thought everything will subside soon. but things did not take my way! it had started affecting my social life. i had to do something seriously about it!
so.. after 3 days of serious thinking, i landed up to my 'v'... i explained things clearly; did not reveal my entire life, but what could be the root cause for all this! 'v' listened carefully. as usual! applied his IIT brains, took my mail ids and passwords.
v: first we need to change your password!
me: ya.. ok!
v: fine let me do that!
(both of us went back to work)
after 2 hours..
v: (pinging me on messenger) it is all done! dont worry. lets take care things after this.
me: what's the new password
v: its *******
me: ok alright.. (accessing gmail, its all working fine)

next day..
i again accessed my gmail, not able to access with the new password. called up 'v' again to find out if he has again changed it.
me: did you change the password again?
v: fuckin damn!! no.. God what's happening with your gmail!
me: shit, i don't know. i'm not able to login with the new password which you gave me yesterday!
v: try with the old password
me: (tried) its logged in!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
v: !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
me: ok anyways lemme see. (hung the phone)

i started exploring gmail. the way no one else would've explored before..
got the clue!! got it.. got the hell jack ass! Bastard he'll rot in hell for this..

ps: part 2 will bring the story about the jack ass and the rest problems which i had to face.

rejuvenation

ya.. i've rejuvenated recetly. after a tiring work of 10 continuous months, facing almost all the crappiest things on earth..
a series of things happened, dont know if it is all for good or all for bad. i laugh at life now just because i dont want to cry!
1) a 'kadhal desam' friendship.. friend away from my life all of a sudden. not able to take it. he is just a friend, thats it. not a boy friend of course, trust me!
2) didnt give a satifactory performance at work, so out of the project! anyways into another project!
3) biggest doubt about future.
4) old friend trying to patch up again as he doesnt want me to know what is loneliness. even i know how cruel it is, but i dont want to get into this again only to hurt him after again few days.
ok this would be all confusing to read at a single stretch (as confusing as aish's :p) but free it, keep visitng, you might correlate some real soon!

vitamin 'M'

this is a very vital vitamin anyone need to live life their own way! people say there are many other vitamins which are more important than this to lead a happy life. but i swear those should be of the kind who must be suffering from over-availability of this particular vitamin. ya.. exactly! the value of 'x' is felt only in its absence!
now here 'x' stands for any materialistic or non-materialistic objects on earth!
so.. the value of vitamin M will be felt only in its absence!
now i dont want you guys to land up at any psychiatrist clinic after thinking for an incredibly longer period 'what 'M' stands for'. 'M' doesnt stand for Manju not Munna-bhai neither Michael-jackson nor Marriage.. 'M' stand for Money!
few days back i happened to meet some star of a big software firm who addressed to this vitamin as 'money-shani'.. this flashed in my mind within no time:

a general gyaan which comes out of everyone's stinkin a$$ is 'u should be happy with what you've'.. what a great phrase to be told(only to others)!
lack of 'm' leads to lots of chaos & depression. this is where lose-something-to-get-something funda comes into picture. see this & you'll know what it is:)

sometimes i feel if i would find some way out like this GP-pay-award-wheel.

if somebody like this exists in India, no need to depend on bosses for leave. everyday in a year will be a holiday!

but finally know what!! end up like this:)


***************************Added later*****************************
got to meet a friend yesterday.. who is of this heavenly nature.. next to Gandhi & Buddha. the meet was as good as salman meeting abhishek.. just had to pass time, so as usual i started yapping something! finally it ended up about the work..
i have been working on blah blah blah..
there i have to interact with blah blah blah!
people around me are like blah blah!
right now i'm earnin blah blah booh..
next year i've to earn blah blah much..!
if thats not the case, then i ve to blah blah..
PS: you can guess what all these 'blah-blahs & blah-boohs' stand for.. let your thinking waves flow & take all the directions! but its unfair if you close this page without penning 'em down:)
my heavely friend was listening to all my crap like how sonia would be listenin to musharraf.. n do you know the final word!!!!
"you've to be happy with what God gives you! if you stay unhappy this way He'll take back what He had given you also!"
my inner voice "WOW!! mann... idhadhaan tamizh-la solvaanga. yaana thaan thalaila manna vaari potukchunu!"..
as because there should be some pass time, i started telling all that, i sure wasnt cribbing about anything. like big piece of $hit sir started giving gyaan! ok what to do.. happens. took that also and walked-off!
Moral: Do not discuss things happening in your life with every other friend. That'll create wrong opinions about you! Be choosy.. else even you would tend to walk-off like me!

weekend

its friday, the last working day of the week. thinking of tomorrow usually drives the rate of my adrenalin secretion high. but not this time! dont ask me why.
i have no mood to work now. (now stop thinking google'll give 'search not found' when you type 'no of times a software guy thinks about work')
mann, its so wierd that from the past 2 hrs i've been feeling like an indian lion in the US fed only with bananas as it went there on a monkey visa!
i'm feeling half sleepy half stressed, like that Wil guy under all those mess in WTC (for my friends who are of this holy nature, who doesn't know to spot any part in the world map other than their own house, WTC is World Trade Centre - an english movie) holding his life in hand still manages to laugh.

i really have no plans for the weekends. now dont ask me for a date (ok i DONT think i'm aishwarya rai) may be i would be drowned in the sea of tears cuz 's' is flying to the US to bring a hair straightener for me.
like somebody said 'u like changes or not,who cares! God sure does!!'.. dont think who has said this. this might be an IP of MG (P) Ltd. will let you know once i make it sure!
life will take a complete change from next week. unfortunately the gal who has been working with me is also shifted to our good old office and so i'll be boarding the auto n then the cab alone, will be sitting alone in the cube. hope i would do some innovative work. cuz when there's nothing entertaining around you, you might have this possiblity of becoming a cracked pot and do something as crazy as a mad cat! heyy.. but i have this blog! hurray!! thank you dear God for saving me from becoming a mad cat:)
ok all these are atleast fine. i sincerely pray to God for not putting me in this particlar situation: there's this dumb fella who thinks inside that hez as sexy as Brad pitt, capable of beatin hrithick in Mr.Arms show n who doesnt know anything on earth other than asking 'so, shall we catch up for lunch today' making a crappy (i dont have a better word than this; u can suggest if you've got any) smile which is as handsome as a monkey's (sorry Mr.Monkey for insulting you); me standing dumb struck, thinking inside 'gosshhh y r some guys so crazy like this!!', giving this look like a blue whale which got trapped in a fisherman's net, saying 'no, i've promised Mr.God that i'll not enter the cafeteria zone today, if He gets me a wish done.. will catch you later' (a crazy smile back) and running away like this arvind swamy who comes running when those terrorists released him in roja..
i should be soon finishing off my assignments as i'm already lagging by a week time. let me better get into work now.
so people i wanna declare few things before closing this post:
1) software engineers do work; atleast towards the deadline
2) when a lucky star bumps in front of a software engineer and asks for a wish to come true, he'll say 'plz puncture my boss's car tyre, so that i can be late to office 1 day'.. well! atleast i'll ask
3) the worst comment on earth could be the one a software engineer gets for his best work from his boss.

now dont pity my boss.. i'm more pitiable than him!

CAT 2006

dropping 'V' at the centre, i'm the most tensed now, sitting in an internet cafe. not feelin like doin anything. i've never felt this way before, so tensed. heart is beating as if i'm juz back from the marathon field.
even when i was giving the most difficult papers (actually i havent found any this way) during coll, may be i can say electronic circuits which got me into this history of arrears for around a month until i got my revaluation results which again got me out of the same history!
another 2 hours, house around 20km away, dont wanna go n come back. cuz i myt meet with an accident if i ride at this stage.
there were around 500 ppl in this centre (Bangalore - MES college, Malleswaram). media press and what not, converting those tension-oozing-out-faces into a compact disc. the no of ppl who are giving this CAT today will be in some thousands(sure 5 digit no). all carrying this hall ticket, looking at the next guy and think "sucker, dont you really have any better job! giving this damn exam and increasing the competition by some fraction of percentile for me"
the next guy would be thinking at the same time, "God, let the graphite of all the 4 pencils that he carries should be of the worst(est) quality and the pen should have a fake ink so that within a min after he writes, it should vanish like what comes in a old rajini kanth movie"
me tensed than ever; my fingers crossed from past 2 hrs. i've lived life this way 'ant in a boiling milk'.. only goal is coming out without getting hurt and then live happily ever after! once i was placed in a pretty decent company during my 7th sem, i felt this way. life is not harder anymore. its all gonna be easy and filled with only happiness.. ya.. it has been like this since then.. but after my electrnoic circuit results i'm feeling this way today. guess delivery pain would be better than this!
the dream, hope, life, work, everything of certain ppl lies in this.
God! Bless them with the best!
I pray for the no of IIM seats to be increased this year! I pray for lower cut-offs.. most of all i pray for the easiest paper ever!
dont worry buddies.. u will all come out with flying colors:)
All the very best!
ok.. now i'm runnin outta time. my 1 hr limit in the cyber cafe is getting over! i was given this very imp work of taking my 'Bajaj Wave' to the nearest petrol bunk and filling his stomach else he wont carry us back home then. so now i gotta do it and prove how responsible i'm! (mann, y dont i live in iraq or saudi that i dont tend to spend too much on this fuel; when i first flew on my TVS-xl, 1ltr petrol costed 26rs. today its double that amount!) God save this Mother India!

somthing~~

well.. long time since i've logged into my blogger a/c which made me meddle wit ma p/w for awhile.. finally ended up like tis: "God.. y u makin me work so much tat i remember only vcdpluson, tapsm, jtag, clk, rst (some techni crap, don mind eh) etc"
okies.. so i'm back ryt here to write some $hit aft readin a lot many $hit from too many blogs. cuz u know my 'V' told me tat its better to read thru lot more bef writin 1!
n if u c the story of this blog sprouting up, its a real funny 1. the birth time was juz 5 mins (oops, got occupied wit setup,hold time, again a techni crap; forgive me) .. so 1 fine monday morning, sittin in front of 15"/17" or God knows wat monitor n thinkin y am i so jobless these days.. apart from tat, hell lot of frustrations inside n decided to put up everythin in 1 single page n there the damsel sizzled. hahahh. funny huh! stop laughin u dumbo:x the amount i thought over this name would be as good as a kinder garden kid practicin to write the alphabet 'O'
still when i started blogging, i have this own rules of mine, that it should be in a professional way, not too many shortcuts, basically not like this sms lingo of few hep city guys'.. but in the past few days got to know that this blog world is too vast and wat i write here will reach ppl only half the no which i have in mind .. that which is explicit from the no of dudes who had seen me so far.
anyways.. lots had happened over these days since i put something that goes out of tune..
that includes
celebrating a beautiful b'day for the 1st time
buying a new house which got me into a huge debt al of a sudden
being away from the hep city for almost around 2 weeks, particularly weekends
V's departure confirmation
workin from a place which i prefer
facing a lot of issues at work which makes me feel like a refugee in the middle of pacific ocean whoz tryin to reach the shore crossing those huge tides hitting his face
ya, mainly readin IIMC's blog n got impressed towards funny writing..
listenin to radio city n got fascinated towards sunaina..
very recently children's day:)
n a list goes this way!
PS for non-b'loreans: sunaina hosts a program in the popular fm radio city here at 19:30 everyday, atleast i'm sure on working days. cuz the change in workplace has brought me a long distance travel and everyday at this time i get to sit in d cab with a pale, worried face. sirichu sirichu the way she speaks if not excites me atleast managed to scare me n the callers bring a smile on my face even if not on hers, but she ll sure be fed up of sayin this 1 day "u brought a smile on my face n thanx very much"!
apram konja naala oru doubt.. does this 'good' in good morning has only 2 'o's or like this 'gooooooooooooooooooooooooo......d' some 'n' no of 'o's!!! that too u shud listen to this on a wednesday morning.. nammale yenda ipdi oru life-nu frustrations-la 7-o clock cab odi odi pidichu office vandhut irupom.. ivanga boost panren paervazhinu "gooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooood morning bangalore"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! this is radio city '/2 coffee' (name of the program-spell it as 'by 2 coffee') n we're exactly in the middle of the week n the clock ticks 8:00AM IST apdimbaanga. kadavule-nu irkum sometimes!
sari whatever. a very good time pass. sometimes i think even i can goto some work like this.. lively job to do but.
ippo don ask me whether i'm cribbin or praisin them.. even i dont know!

everyday i think i shud write sth, but too busy to catch up wit too many things at a time. but read few blogs which went like i got up at tis time, brushed at tis sec, then velila ponen, yen mela kaaka $hit panidthu apdi yellam.. so thought wil juz write absolutely "something" n thats how this was born:D
fine now try to change the bright red color of ur ears n face after reading this blog and chill maadi.. (yethana paer kitta adi vaanga poreno therla, God save me!)
anyways keep a watch.. u ll find much more soon & often after this:)
ciao..

Smile plzz :))

This is just a forward which I had got over the mail! Just for smiles:)

6 Weeks , 6 Months, 6 Years:

Dating process:
6 weeks : I love U, I love U, I love U.
6 months : Of course I love U.
6 years : GOD, if I didn't love U, then why the hell did I propose?

Back from Work:
6 weeks : Honey, I'm home.
6 months : BACK!!
6 years : What did your mom cook for us today??

Gifts:
6 weeks : Honey, I really hope you liked the ring.
6 months : I bought you a painting; it would fit the motif in the living room.
6 years : Here's the money. Buy yourself something.

Phone Ringing:
6 weeks : Baby, somebody wants you on the phone.
6 months : Here, for you.
6 years : PHONE RINGING.

Cooking:
6 weeks : I never knew food could taste so good!
6 months : What are we having for dinner tonight?
6 years : AGAIN!!!!

Apology:
6 weeks : Honey muffin, don't you worry, Ill never hold this against you.
6 months : Watch out! Don't do it again.
6 years : What's not to understand about what I just said??

New Dress:
6 weeks : Oh my God, you look like an angel in that dress.
6 months : You bought a new dress again???
6 years : How much did THAT cost me?

Planning for Vacations:
6 weeks : How do 2 weeks in Vienna or anywhere you please sound??
6 months : What's so bad about going to India on a charter plane?
6 years : Travel? What's so bad about staying home???

TV:
6 weeks : Baby, what would you like us to watch tonight?
6 months : I like this movie.
6 years : I'm going to watch ESPN, if you're not in the mood, go to bed, I can stay up by myself . . .

Red Hat comments:
Gals, Be aware of color changing guys! Finally you're taken only to this stage..

Maturity --> Balance!

"Love reminds you that nothing else matters." - Amy Bushell
Agreed that the feeling sprouts all of a sudden from nowhere you’d have imagined; still before coming to a conclusion or expressing it out think twice, analyze yourself and the other person; take a “matured” decision then. The first thing is you should be most sure of the person before taking him/her (hereafter him) into your life. A successful relationship is formed at this venture. You can’t run the show tomorrow when you find him not suitable for you or if you keep having clashes at every simple thing in life which you got to deal with him.

The common problem which everyone confronts in a relationship would be this: The beginning days go very smooth whichever relationship you take, be it a love life or wedding life. When days pass-by and the couples get used to the company of each other, gradually they start finding faults with each other and there starts all the problems.

The rudimental ratiocination would go in such a way that one person having lot of time in hand whereas the other keeps being busy!
When your partner says “gimme my own space” don’t think that he doesn’t like you or he got bored of you; it might mean that he wants to spend sometime on his own, may be with his male friends.
Don’t jump into conclusions that he has got another girl and that’s why ignoring you. Understand that it doesn’t mean he is ignoring you. Give him his own time; don’t keep calling him to see where, with whom or what he is doing. Let him be; when he finds time he’ll call you.
Most of all trust your relationship; remember you are supposed to think smart before getting into it.

In olden days most of the female population was good home makers. There was this big problem of cribbing the spouse as, in the beginning of the wedding life he tends to spend a lot of time with her, tasting her food, enjoying her make-up, admiring her beauty and all that. But later when time goes, he gets busy with his own work and the girl still tends to dress-up for him and wait. Now his reaction once he’s back home becomes opposite to what she expects. She is disappointed, starts feeling bad and blaming the guy.
The ultimate moral here is times change and thereby things that happen would change. This is where the maturity comes into picture. Try to understand the reality, only then life will be peaceful for both the persons.

There was this article, if I’m right, “I want my space” which I got to come across in Bangalore Times over the weekend. It gave almost similar gyaan like what I’ve written above.
They’ve suggested the solution for this kind of problem which went like this: (focused on the meaning not on the phrases)
1) Try to keep yourself busy with something or the other.
2) It is natural for the couples to spend a lot of time together in the beginning of the relationship. But now that you’ve reached a saturation level and so start calling your parents and friends. Spend time with them.

I couldn’t help myself laughing out after reading this. The first point is in a way agreeable. But what is this they’ve written about saturation level!!!??? When you need your spouse, you’ll forget the rest. Now that he doesn’t find time for you and so you should think about your family and friends. Tomorrow again when the guy comes back to you, you’ll forget your friends and family and go behind him, is it!?
The result of this would be nothing else but you offending them ‘knowingly’. Do not let others think that you’re making them a “use and throw object”. Try to achieve a “balance” come what may!
1 small tip.. to test yourself on this, try this out:
How Selfish Are You?
Your family and friends are always there for you and try spending some amount of time with them every now and then. Reasonable that it can’t be the same as before, but once in a while at least! Don’t fall flat totally for them when you find someone for yourself, forgetting the world around you! Later when you’re in trouble, seeking help from people around you is not at all fair.
The balance that you attain over this period would be of tremendous help at any point of time in life!

JCubez....

This should be informative for guys (??)!! :)
"JCubez" is a popular pub in Bangalore near Banashankari 2nd stage BDA complex right next to cafe coffee day (CCD).

While entering the guy at the main door asks "how many of you" and accordingly they give you the seat if you happen to visit the place after 6PM. Before this time you're given the freedom of choosing your own seats.
It was a rainy pleasant evening... We entered the place around 5.30PM by a sudden change in plan from a nearby pizza hut to this pub and fortunately I was given the rights to pick my place.. Me being a "sofa-maniac :D" need sofa to sit and make myself comfortable wherever I go. I got my sofa and sat to look through the menu. The dishes were of reasonable cost.. I went for a Mickey Mouse that is nothing but our popular coke float which we get in McDonald's.. Hard rock piercing my eardrum, banging heavy on my head (would've shattered into pieces if I would've sat there for another hour)
Now comes the interesting point. Started looking at people around.. I was shocked to find myself to be the only girl out there. My thought process rushed and took different directions. I found it literally amazing as this is the first pub in Bangalore where I "did not" see any chicks sitting and boozing! Surprising fact is that I've seen so many girls smoking royally in the CCD next to this pub every time I get to cross this place.. and the same scene was in effect last Sunday too before I entered! In an astonished tone whispered into my friend's ears 'why is there no gals around!?' he in a cool voice said, 'people come here only for boozing unlike us, so the type of girls whom you look for will be available at least after 8PM only'.. So then I put a full-stop to my overflowing thoughts and assuaged my insecurity just to see a head quaking hardly, roughly, madly (I would need a list of adjectives like this) in the diagonally opposite couch.. It was so funny to see a human that way and I bursted out laughing. My friend asked me to keep quiet or else we would end up in another bicker there!
The ambience was soothing and hospitality was awesome! Was a decent crowd, particularly there was nobody to look at a girl as a bizarre creature..
[Info especially for guys:)] 250 bucks for a mild, satisfying drink. We were 2 and checked in for 350 bucks finally, left to you to decide what we would've done there!!! :D

Time to dig mystery!!??

To brief this topic, its going to speak about "Chidambara ragasiyam" (Chidambaram - heart of the universe(Chid – Heart, ambaram – universe); ragasiyam - secret)
So this part of the blog will elaborate on this topic which always remained a mystery!
It is present in Natarajar temple in a place called Chidambaram which acquires it fame only due to the presence of these 2 world famous spots:
"Natarajar temple" &
"Annamalai University"

To speak about annamalai university, it is a well-known educational institute built by Raja Muthaiah Chettiar who comes from the background of NKCs (Nattu Kottai Chettiars--a Hindu caste famous in tamilnadu)... Many celebrities in politics & other fields have graduated from this university. The location of each block & the way they've been built are way too brilliant... A place worth visiting!

Natarajar temple is one of the largest and ancient temples built by Cholas who ruled Tamilnadu in older times. The vastness of the temple reveals the fact that it had been built by many Chola kings in their ruling period... History says it too around 300 years to finish constructing the temple. It is really an awesome masterpiece by men for God!
Natarajar is a form of Shiva and Chidambaram is the place of aagayam (sky) out of the pancha boothaas.

Alright! Now let’s come to the depth of the topic. All I'm going to speak here is about the popular, mysterious "Chidambara ragasiyam"...
I'm proud to say that I was born and brought up in this small town near Pondicherry (approximately 1.5 hrs journey from here). I visited my home town during the recent dhussera holidays after a time gap of 1 year...
When I got to visit the temple here, I got to know the Dhikshidars (priest who do seva to God) belief about the famous "Chidambara ragasiyam"!

The speech of the Dhikshidar who explained what it is exactly went like this:
"Listen carefully; there happens pooja 6 times a day called as "Kaalam" for Natarajar. Every time "Kaalam" happens, pooja is done to the ragasiyam also and so it'll be opened and showed to the bakthas(worshippers).
The ragasiyam is nothing but the old statues of Lord Nataraja and his wife Sivagamasundari Amman. As they are age old statues and they are fully covered by the camphor smoke and those kinds of things used for pooja, the vikraham (statue) will not be seen. Only the vilva ilai (Vilvam is a sacred leaf with which they do pooja for Natarajar) will be seen as it is made of Gold and which weighs around 300 kgs!
Once the archanai(pooja with camphor) is done to Natarajar and Sivagami Amman, the ragasiyam is also worshipped, during when the light that falls on the golden leaf is reflected and only the leaf will be visible. Watch out for the light, think of Natarajar and pray deeply; your wishes will come true!"

All about this Blog!!

after writin a blog yesterday juz felt that i should've given a brief on wat this blog s & how its gonna be of some interest to al the bloggers around! so doin it now..
alryt..
this blog would be simple & creative which wil spk bout al day-to-day happenings, views on public matters, bout movies, hang-outs, some of the hottest & coolest topics, some stupid stuff at times n the list goes on like tis!
keep bloggin! :)

Compulsion....

Dictionary says "Compulsion is an uncontrollable impulse to perform an act, often repetitively, as an unconscious mechanism to avoid unacceptable ideas and desires which, by themselves, arouse anxiety."
Well! The topic just speaks about the day-to-day life a normal human comes across... in a new state "without knowing the particular language of the place"!
Ya... may be with people in the society who belong to doing small scale business, say a milkman or a dobby, communication will be a problem. Certainly, to converse wit them, there’s no need to know the high level version of the language wit the grammar... Few common words like when, how, how much, why etc., should do...
The main problem due to this comes into picture in a place where the human tends to spend the most part of his life! Basically work...

Only during this part of life, 90% of the population tends to migrate from their native place/state towards the state where his career calls him!

This guy carries a lot of dream about his future in the new career during his journey towards the new place providing not a single percent space in his mind & heart for any of the obstacles, for him working s not al that tough thing in life, that too when it comes to language -- he wouldn't have even thought of it once, that it would be a real head-eating he is going to face.. Al he thinks about this is 'anyways I very well know the language the entire world speaks, y to worry'!
He reaches the place, seeks for an auto. "I wanna goto 'x street, y road'" surprised to see the auto man saying "get in sir" in the guy's mother tongue, He feels so happy that there are people here who speaks his language too and so surviving is not going to be a problem...
He goes home... gets ready 4 work! The first day at work seems to move fine. In fact he is very much excited bout the company's policies & stuff...
Within a week he is put into a real-time project wherein he had to give his life & soul and work towards the deadline... The 1st day in the project too turns out to be fine as everyone out there is new to the project, as nobody knew the other person and so they converse in that language which the entire world can speak... The guy becomes even happier that the entire team is so friendly and lively!
Unfortunately this happiness is not lasting longer... as always! Soon when people get to know each other very well, this guy finds everyone's behavior changing drastically... on analysis he gets to know the very glad news that the rest of the team belong to the same place (language). al the time he has to and used to spend wit the team speaking & listening & enjoying, turns out to be the most unpleasant moments!!
He acquiesces the present situation, thinking that this will subside very soon as people would tend to understand gradually his mindset! He continues going for coffee, lunch, walk etc., with his so-called glorious team but the condition grows worse and the people around don't seem to bother, except 1 or 2, out of "sympathy" those 1 or 2 souls try to translate a sentence or 2 in the middle of a massive conversation!
The guy reaches the heights of frustration, left all alone out there and starts living a mechanical life. I wonder 'is this how humans are pushed to live a mechanical life!!"
The major thing that worries him is "with a milkman or a dobby, this problem of communication is agreeable, but how come with people who are supposed to be called "professionals"!!!! “
Don’t they realize that a single person out there will suffer or is it a big sin that he belongs to a different language category!!?? In every organization, the employees are given hi-fi workshops on professionalism and all that! Are they all abortive or they are conducted just for name-sake? Or does it mean our national leaders fought for our country’s independence just to see this sort of discrimination existing within the country itself? When I try to find an answer for all these queries arising in mind, it creates an immense mental pressure! A heartburn which really has no solemn medicine!!
Should the end of this poor guy who has been portrayed in my narration be that he should start finding people who belong to his own language or he should start learning the new language!!
Ya, fair enough... He should start learning the language which would be helpful for his survival very much! But again, for the time he's been in this new place, the guy did his best to understand the language partially, when it comes to speaking the language, it turns out to be a big problem! After all how long only a person can listen!!??

Or is it the only solution that he has to suffer until he learns to speak the language?

Agreed that everybody have been brought up in an environment where people have this superior view on their own language and state and of course, themselves. But I’m sure nobody was ever fed with any misleading comments on other creed. Each one is special in their own way and they carry their own values irrespective of state, caste, creed or language

I strongly believe that there can be no categorization existing depending on the state or language or even gender… But when people start categorizing someone based on their language or state, it automatically creates almost a similar impact on him. I mean when I constantly hear some phrase like “X* are like this”, within no time I’m forced to think “Ya, Y* are like this”. Newton's third law is applicable everywhere and this place is no exception too!

It hurts my inner conscience badly when I look back and think that I have developed a negative opinion about people who belong to a different state or race; that without my own knowledge, the belief which I had so far has changed in no time!!

*- people belong to a particular state say, tamilians, mallus, kannadigas etc.