Maturity --> Balance!

"Love reminds you that nothing else matters." - Amy Bushell
Agreed that the feeling sprouts all of a sudden from nowhere you’d have imagined; still before coming to a conclusion or expressing it out think twice, analyze yourself and the other person; take a “matured” decision then. The first thing is you should be most sure of the person before taking him/her (hereafter him) into your life. A successful relationship is formed at this venture. You can’t run the show tomorrow when you find him not suitable for you or if you keep having clashes at every simple thing in life which you got to deal with him.

The common problem which everyone confronts in a relationship would be this: The beginning days go very smooth whichever relationship you take, be it a love life or wedding life. When days pass-by and the couples get used to the company of each other, gradually they start finding faults with each other and there starts all the problems.

The rudimental ratiocination would go in such a way that one person having lot of time in hand whereas the other keeps being busy!
When your partner says “gimme my own space” don’t think that he doesn’t like you or he got bored of you; it might mean that he wants to spend sometime on his own, may be with his male friends.
Don’t jump into conclusions that he has got another girl and that’s why ignoring you. Understand that it doesn’t mean he is ignoring you. Give him his own time; don’t keep calling him to see where, with whom or what he is doing. Let him be; when he finds time he’ll call you.
Most of all trust your relationship; remember you are supposed to think smart before getting into it.

In olden days most of the female population was good home makers. There was this big problem of cribbing the spouse as, in the beginning of the wedding life he tends to spend a lot of time with her, tasting her food, enjoying her make-up, admiring her beauty and all that. But later when time goes, he gets busy with his own work and the girl still tends to dress-up for him and wait. Now his reaction once he’s back home becomes opposite to what she expects. She is disappointed, starts feeling bad and blaming the guy.
The ultimate moral here is times change and thereby things that happen would change. This is where the maturity comes into picture. Try to understand the reality, only then life will be peaceful for both the persons.

There was this article, if I’m right, “I want my space” which I got to come across in Bangalore Times over the weekend. It gave almost similar gyaan like what I’ve written above.
They’ve suggested the solution for this kind of problem which went like this: (focused on the meaning not on the phrases)
1) Try to keep yourself busy with something or the other.
2) It is natural for the couples to spend a lot of time together in the beginning of the relationship. But now that you’ve reached a saturation level and so start calling your parents and friends. Spend time with them.

I couldn’t help myself laughing out after reading this. The first point is in a way agreeable. But what is this they’ve written about saturation level!!!??? When you need your spouse, you’ll forget the rest. Now that he doesn’t find time for you and so you should think about your family and friends. Tomorrow again when the guy comes back to you, you’ll forget your friends and family and go behind him, is it!?
The result of this would be nothing else but you offending them ‘knowingly’. Do not let others think that you’re making them a “use and throw object”. Try to achieve a “balance” come what may!
1 small tip.. to test yourself on this, try this out:
How Selfish Are You?
Your family and friends are always there for you and try spending some amount of time with them every now and then. Reasonable that it can’t be the same as before, but once in a while at least! Don’t fall flat totally for them when you find someone for yourself, forgetting the world around you! Later when you’re in trouble, seeking help from people around you is not at all fair.
The balance that you attain over this period would be of tremendous help at any point of time in life!