Firstly, I wasn't sure of starting to write on this title today. But then I did not want to wait anymore. So, the twenty second of August, two thousand and ten.. the day that was yet another beautiful entry to a whole new entity of life. the day I/we got married! I must say it was a very long preparation that went on for four years right from opening it to parents to getting them say a 'yes' till here. The wedding talks started on the third of April, two thousand ten between both the sides and since then it was all like what happens in any other arranged marriages. A lot of talks, lot of doubts, so much of confusion, anxiety, misunderstandings but what ruled out all of these is that both the side parents were concerned most about the happiness that him and I would share after all these things that are getting messed up.
So, further about the wedding as such - it was a bilingual communion - tamil and telugu. The customs and traditions that were followed in the wedding was completely Telugu Iyengar ways of wedding. Starting from the pre-wedding rituals that they do for the groom, then the edhirkolal and then the oonjal sevai, jilakara bellam till tieing the knot.
What impressed me the most was the oonjal sevai. I have got to experience this before in some of my friend's relatives' weddings and have always admired it. They made us sit in the oonjal (swing) and swing it slowly, do some aarathi, sing songs - seetha kalyana vaibohame, the traditional one. Once all that usual ritual was over, they asked a few of them in the crowd who are known for singing to sing. Then came up the 'kurai ondrum illa' and then the alaipayuthey kanna and a few more of krishna genres like 'krishna nee begane' etc :) As such I love music and listening to songs, devotional ones generally elevate my energy and that moment of the whole occasion was like "THE" moment for me! Thanks to my sister's friend Priya who had nominated my side singing 'kurai ondrum illai' which was such a memorable and intelligent pick. Needless to mention his sister and brother-in-law who are a family of singers to add up to the colors and happiness.
Finally for them keeping the jilakara bellam on each others heads is the most important part of the wedding, though that did not give me much of a wedded feel ;) and then when he tied the knot, I will definitely run short of words to explain what/how it was, I can only feel it, the feeling that's most special to me, the feeling that only both of us can understand.. I couldn't control the gush of tears and emotions, mom next to me and periyamma opposite to me, I saw them crying too! All of us finally left a sigh of relief and the whistle was removed to let out the 3 hrs of pressure that was built up inside my head! I don't think I had ever gone through such a tension filled situation in life before!
The moment my boyfriend became my fiance and went on to become my husband. We went on to live together, in the same house, together day-in and day-out. Its quite different! The amount of patience we had to hold on to. the kind of rights we exert on each other. Yet at the end of the day, we realize, all only because of the kind of love that lives up amongst the two of us. My husband, definitely is the greatest, The smartest! There are only a very few people in the world who are lucky to get a balance between in-laws' and parents. And he definitely is one among them, intelligent fella! ;) The Mauritius trip - worth a mention. That's an amazing wedding gift, likewise there are only a very few ladies out there who are lucky enough to find a husband like mine. My convenience before his needs. I can go on to sing a My-Husband-greatest purana. But for now, I'm just leaving it here.
Thank God for such a wonderful gift for life.
And for the readers, may you have someone who loves you crazily enough and several years down the line, may you look back to realize that the love this person showers on you, is multi-zillion times more than what you feel today!
God bless!
So, further about the wedding as such - it was a bilingual communion - tamil and telugu. The customs and traditions that were followed in the wedding was completely Telugu Iyengar ways of wedding. Starting from the pre-wedding rituals that they do for the groom, then the edhirkolal and then the oonjal sevai, jilakara bellam till tieing the knot.
What impressed me the most was the oonjal sevai. I have got to experience this before in some of my friend's relatives' weddings and have always admired it. They made us sit in the oonjal (swing) and swing it slowly, do some aarathi, sing songs - seetha kalyana vaibohame, the traditional one. Once all that usual ritual was over, they asked a few of them in the crowd who are known for singing to sing. Then came up the 'kurai ondrum illa' and then the alaipayuthey kanna and a few more of krishna genres like 'krishna nee begane' etc :) As such I love music and listening to songs, devotional ones generally elevate my energy and that moment of the whole occasion was like "THE" moment for me! Thanks to my sister's friend Priya who had nominated my side singing 'kurai ondrum illai' which was such a memorable and intelligent pick. Needless to mention his sister and brother-in-law who are a family of singers to add up to the colors and happiness.
Finally for them keeping the jilakara bellam on each others heads is the most important part of the wedding, though that did not give me much of a wedded feel ;) and then when he tied the knot, I will definitely run short of words to explain what/how it was, I can only feel it, the feeling that's most special to me, the feeling that only both of us can understand.. I couldn't control the gush of tears and emotions, mom next to me and periyamma opposite to me, I saw them crying too! All of us finally left a sigh of relief and the whistle was removed to let out the 3 hrs of pressure that was built up inside my head! I don't think I had ever gone through such a tension filled situation in life before!
The moment my boyfriend became my fiance and went on to become my husband. We went on to live together, in the same house, together day-in and day-out. Its quite different! The amount of patience we had to hold on to. the kind of rights we exert on each other. Yet at the end of the day, we realize, all only because of the kind of love that lives up amongst the two of us. My husband, definitely is the greatest, The smartest! There are only a very few people in the world who are lucky to get a balance between in-laws' and parents. And he definitely is one among them, intelligent fella! ;) The Mauritius trip - worth a mention. That's an amazing wedding gift, likewise there are only a very few ladies out there who are lucky enough to find a husband like mine. My convenience before his needs. I can go on to sing a My-Husband-greatest purana. But for now, I'm just leaving it here.
Thank God for such a wonderful gift for life.
And for the readers, may you have someone who loves you crazily enough and several years down the line, may you look back to realize that the love this person showers on you, is multi-zillion times more than what you feel today!
God bless!
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