Not sure what to put up in the Title space. Wanted to pen this incident down here that happened when I was in Chennai over the weekend that went by.
Dad and myself were walking towards Panagal park, T.Nagar from Pondy bazaar while someone came from the other direction smiled at him and took him by hand. Dad gave a confused look. The man was quite old, as old as my dad and was asking him if he remembers him. Dad said that he was not really sure, yengeyo kadai vecchurndhapo paatha nyabahama irku (that he remembers vaguely that he had visited dad's shop years back). This man took him away from me and was telling him a story and I could make out that he was wanting some money and he is simply putting up a weird reason to extract whatever cash possible. We were just done with our shopping and was rushing to mom who was waiting in Nalli for us. Dad was telling him that he was left with only a few notes as we were just done with some shopping. I was watching all this from a lil distance from him and being a person who does not believe in people that so quick particularly when it comes to some cases like this, I jumped into the scene and pulled dad by hand, common lets go, mom would be waiting. This man was then telling me to give him sometime. We were in a different tension meanwhile and hurriedly I told him that we had to leave immediately as my mom was alone there. Dad told him, I'm not sure what's with this, but I'm sorry and we walked away.
I was a little bothered if I was heartless to do that and I'm sure dad, being a person who cannot stop himself from helping people for whatsoever reason, irrespective of he has or he doesn't have the source to help, was quite bothered.
Later, I was checking with dad what was he upto and dad told me, he said he was working in Annamalai University as a professor and currently settled in Chennai. His family had gone for a death and left the house locked and that he is left with no money to travel to Chidambaram and so was asking for help. Dad is not sure if he should believe that or not. He had no clue where in Chennai he lives etc. I could make a clear stand that he was creating a complete story there, a simple thought how a professor who had been out of touch for years with a person can ask for help and the way he had put it up with not even a little bit of hesitation.
What bothered me most was how people take advantage of others' who still are ethical and have the morality to help someone regardless of reason and the relationship. Several times I wonder at mom for being in touch with a lot of relatives who do not wish good for us. She says that is how relationships work. You cannot expect everybody to help when in trouble, nor expect everyone to feel good when we grow. You have to be selfless and that is when you truly live united! (they say in Tamizh 'Oorodhu othu vaazh')
Dad and myself were walking towards Panagal park, T.Nagar from Pondy bazaar while someone came from the other direction smiled at him and took him by hand. Dad gave a confused look. The man was quite old, as old as my dad and was asking him if he remembers him. Dad said that he was not really sure, yengeyo kadai vecchurndhapo paatha nyabahama irku (that he remembers vaguely that he had visited dad's shop years back). This man took him away from me and was telling him a story and I could make out that he was wanting some money and he is simply putting up a weird reason to extract whatever cash possible. We were just done with our shopping and was rushing to mom who was waiting in Nalli for us. Dad was telling him that he was left with only a few notes as we were just done with some shopping. I was watching all this from a lil distance from him and being a person who does not believe in people that so quick particularly when it comes to some cases like this, I jumped into the scene and pulled dad by hand, common lets go, mom would be waiting. This man was then telling me to give him sometime. We were in a different tension meanwhile and hurriedly I told him that we had to leave immediately as my mom was alone there. Dad told him, I'm not sure what's with this, but I'm sorry and we walked away.
I was a little bothered if I was heartless to do that and I'm sure dad, being a person who cannot stop himself from helping people for whatsoever reason, irrespective of he has or he doesn't have the source to help, was quite bothered.
Later, I was checking with dad what was he upto and dad told me, he said he was working in Annamalai University as a professor and currently settled in Chennai. His family had gone for a death and left the house locked and that he is left with no money to travel to Chidambaram and so was asking for help. Dad is not sure if he should believe that or not. He had no clue where in Chennai he lives etc. I could make a clear stand that he was creating a complete story there, a simple thought how a professor who had been out of touch for years with a person can ask for help and the way he had put it up with not even a little bit of hesitation.
What bothered me most was how people take advantage of others' who still are ethical and have the morality to help someone regardless of reason and the relationship. Several times I wonder at mom for being in touch with a lot of relatives who do not wish good for us. She says that is how relationships work. You cannot expect everybody to help when in trouble, nor expect everyone to feel good when we grow. You have to be selfless and that is when you truly live united! (they say in Tamizh 'Oorodhu othu vaazh')
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